It’s Sons and Daughters Day! This is a day that parents can honor their children.
Today, The Morning Thing focused on the relationship between parents and kids.
We shared some wonderful insight from Focus on the Family on how to build healthy relationships with your kids. Click HERE to read the full article.
Pray, pray, pray – don’t make this a last resort, make it part of your routine.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NIV)
16 Rejoice always, 17 pray continually, 18 give thanks in all circumstances;for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
Get into their space.
From infancy through about age 8, kids spend a lot of time on the floor. We should be down there, too — playing games, pretending with dolls, building block forts. Fight the feeling that you’re acting stupid; crawl through those embarrassed feelings and meet your kids.
Keep it real.
As hard as it may be, recounting our missteps can help kids who are 12 and older learn from our errors. They also get to see we’re not perfect.
Enjoy family time.
A simple way to connect with your kids is eating together as a family. This is easy to do when they’re little, but as kids get older, sports and other activities compete with the family mealtime.
Do projects together.
You’ll need to think and pray about the right level of involvement for your children based on their ages and experience. Count on this: The project may take longer, and your children will not do things like you would. If you can accept these facts, you’ll discover an endearing, enjoyable time.
This isn’t just for small ones. Older kids like it when you act silly, too — even though you might hear, “Oh, Dad, stop it” or “This person is not my mother.”
Embarrassing children in public is not a good idea, but having fun in private keeps things light and makes you approachable. So go ahead, do the goofy dance, make funny faces, sing silly songs, talk for the dog.
We also shared 20 ingenious tricks on how to get your kids to open up about their school day. Click HERE to read the full article from www.sheknows.com
Here are 10 of the tricks:
- Tell me about today’s “thorn” (a not-great thing that happened) at school.
- Now tell me about the “rose” (the best thing that happened).
- Did anyone say something funny or tell a good joke?
- Was it a “play with your friends at recess” kind of day? Or a “chill by yourself on the swings” kind of day?
- You had art/music/computer today, right? What kind of project are you working on?
- Tell me something that you learned today that I don’t know. If you can stump me, I’ll do a goofy dance/read to you for an extra 10 minutes/watch an entire YouTube video with you (insert whatever works here).
- Tell me something kind that you did for someone today.
- Tell me something kind that someone else did for you.
- How many stars would you give the cafeteria food today?
- Did your friends get along really well today?
(Picture from Focus on the Family and Ingram Publishing/Thinkstock)
Do you feel creative? Need a spark?
The Morning Thing shared 17 easy ways to get your creative juices flowing from www.justcreative.com
Some of our favorite ideas include:
* Read a Book
The more people read, the more their minds open up. This allows mind to think of new ideas which result in becoming more creative. All it takes is reading about a half hour before going to bed at night.
* Make a Note of Ideas
As soon as an idea forms, write it down. After it’s written down, the brain is free to form another idea.
* Listen to Sound
There are sound frequencies that have a positive result in increasing the creativity and performance of the brain. When these sounds are listened to, a person can see the positive effect it has had on their creativity and thinking.
Eating blueberries will provide the richest of anti-oxidants, and a few of them should be eaten every day. They are great for raising the thinking ability of the brain.
* Be A Flexible Thinker
Flexible thinkers have the capacity to control and direct their thoughts. This way of thinking allows them to adjust to a novel way of thinking. They can also apply this to what they perceive and can focus on the situation at hand.
Our brain has the ability to rewire itself and can physically adjust to our new ways of thinking. A flexible mindset shoves away all patterns of limiting thought, and goes to a serene place of possibilities and openness to creativity.
Click HERE to see the entire article from Graphic Designer, Jacob Cass.
We also shared 7 ways to foster creativity in your kids. Click HERE to see some wonderful ideas from Christine Carter, Ph.D, a sociologist and happiness expert at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center.
Today, shared some tips on being smart – smart with money and smart with snacking.
Click HERE for 5 tips for raising money smart kids from www.parenting.com.
1. Lead by example
2. Teach saving, giving and spending wisely
3. Take it to the bank
4. Test the stock market waters
5. Let them make mistakes
Today is Trail Mix Day – we shared some make-at-home yummy recipes. Click HERE to see how to make Mountain Trail Mix, Healthy Sweet & Salty Trail Mix, Crunch-Crunch-Crunch Mix and Pumpkin Seed Dried Cherry Trail Mix.
We also found some wonderful healthy and portable high protein Snack Ideas. Click HERE for 27 delicious, healthy, and easy options that have even more protein than an egg (one large contains about 6 grams). Whether you’re fueling up before hitting the gym or taking a midday snack break to avoid the 3 p.m. lull, high-protein snacks are the tastiest way to keep on going. These snacks that pack in plenty of protein along with other nutrients are the perfect way to fill up, and give us longer-lasting energy than carb-heavy options.
On Thursday’s show we celebrated Burger Day! Yes! If you love a good burger, make sure that you check out these 36 yummy burger recipes.
Click HERE to see 36 Killer Burger Recipes. If YOU are the chef, grab your “Kiss-the-BBQ-Chef” apron. 🙂
We also shared 7 reasons why eating family dinners together is very important.
Anne K. Fishel, Ph.D. shared these thoughts on www.parenting.com
Over the last 20 years, dozens of studies have confirmed what parents have known intuitively for a long time: Sitting down for a nightly dinner is good for the spirit, the brain and the body. Research shows that shared meals are tied to many teenage behaviors that parents pray for: reduced rates of substance abuse, eating disorders and depression; and higher grade point averages and self-esteem. For young children, conversation at the table is a bigger vocabulary booster than reading aloud to them. The icing on the cake is that kids who eat regular family dinners grow up to be young adults who eat healthier and have lower rates of obesity.
Click HERE to see Anne’s 7 reasons why you should plan a family dinner soon!
Anne K. Fishel, Ph.D., author of “Home for Dinner: Mixing Food, Fun and Conversation for a Happier Family and Healthier Kids,” is the director of the Family and Couples Therapy Program at Massachusetts General Hospital and an associate clinical professor of psychology at the Harvard Medical School. She is the cofounder of The Family Dinner Project and writes the popular blog “Digital Family” for “Psychology Today.” You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter.
Today’s focus on the Morning Thing was all about bettering your kids.
We started the show by sharing some ways to encourage self-motivation in your children. You can find the full list by clicking HERE.
We also shared 10 manners parents should be teaching their kids, but often don’t. You can find that article HERE.
In the 7 am hour, we shifted gears a little bit and told you all about International Strange Music Day. For more information on the unique holiday, head over HERE.
Have an awesome Wednesday!
On Tuesday’s show, we focused on communication in parenting and in the midst of conflicts.
Parenting is difficult, especially in the midst of fights and bickering.
We found some wonderful advice from author, Tara Ziegmont from www.FaithGateway.com
Tara has 9 brave ways for kids to diffuse conflicts. Parents – these will be great tips that you can use for those teachable moments in the midst of conflict.
Nine Brave Ways For Kids to Diffuse Conflicts
- Remind kids that it is never okay to hurt someone else. Even when you’re angry. Even when you feel that someone else has hurt you. You still have to play by God’s rules, and be kind and do not harm others.
- Slowly count to 10 before reacting. Taking a few seconds before you respond to a situation is always a good idea.
- Listen to the other person’s side. In James 1:19, Jesus says, “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.” This isn’t the only place in the Bible where it talks about being slow to anger. Listening and finding out all the sides to the story is an important part of diffusing any conflict.
- Proverbs 15:1 says “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” It’s always a good idea to say you’re sorry – and mean it – when situations are tense. If there’s a conflict happening, you may have said or done something that deserves an apology. Be the first one to apologize.
- Tell how you feel, starting with the words “I feel…” It’s really important to use statements that begin with “I” instead of statements that begin with “you.”
- Walk away. There is great power and dignity in not responding to fruitless arguments. Help kids find their calm and encourage them to find some space when their emotions rise.
- Sometimes, you have to give in. No one likes this answer. It is never fun. But sometimes, it is necessary to let the other person have her way. Even when it seems unfair. Even when you don’t like it. Remember that Romans 12:21 says “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”
- I think this is the ultimate act of bravery. In Colossians 3:13, Paul says, “Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.” The Lord forgives us even though we are sinners. We need to forgive others even when they do things that hurt us.
- I think kids are much better about this than adults are. I know my kids can be fighting one minute, and then hugging the next minute. They get over things quickly. Leviticus 19:18 says “You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the Lord.” Holding a grudge is a sin.
Click HERE to read the complete article from Tara Ziegmont.
The Morning Thing also shared 10 of the most powerful things parents can say to their kids. The Pew Research Center recently showed parents across America a list of 10 skills, asking the question: “Which of these skills is most important for a child to get ahead in the world today?” The winner, by far, was communication. In fact, not only was it chosen as the most important; it beat out traditional favorites, such as reading, writing, teamwork and logic.
Paul Axtell is the author of the book, “Ten Powerful Things to Say to Your Kids: Creating the Relationship You Want with the Most Important People in Your Life”. In the book, Paul stresses that effective conversation—what you say, how you say it, when you say it—is one of the only tools parents have in creating lasting and meaningful relationships with their kids. He shared the 10 Most Powerful Things You Can Say to Your Kids on www.parenting.com
1. I like you.
This is a different statement from “I love you.” This statement says, “I like who you are as a person.” Use them both.
2. You’re a fast learner.
Learning is natural. Young children are amazing at it. Learning is play to them. What you say to them early influences how they relate to learning later in life, when it can be more difficult or frustrating.
3. Thank you.
Simple courtesies are a sign of respect. Social skills are critical in life, and the best training for tact and grace starts early.
4. How about we agree to…
This is about establishing a few basic agreements that set the stage for how you work together within the family. Having agreements in place helps avoid common issues and provides a framework within which to solve problems when they do arise.
5. Tell me more.
This is a request for your children to share their thoughts, feelings and ideas with you. It also involves learning to listen, which is always a gift because it signals that you care.
6. Let’s read.
Reading to your kids brings so many benefits. It helps them build skills they need for success in life. It enriches your relationship and instills a love of learning. And books provide a gateway to the world—people, places and ideas.
7. We all make mistakes.
Problems happen. No one is perfect. Dealing with problems and learning from mistakes are vital life skills. When you have a moment in which you don’t live up to your own standards, it’s an opportunity to show your children how to take responsibility for mistakes and move on. Kids can beat themselves up over not meeting your expectations or not being perfect. Giving each other a little room around this is a gift for both of you.
8. I’m sorry.
It’s something you can learn to say. Better yet, learn to catch yourself before saying something that might later require an apology.
9. What do you think?
Asking for input and giving kids a chance to be part of family conversations lets them learn to exercise their decision-making skills and begin to take responsibility for their choices. Expressing what you think and asking for what you want are fundamental skills that will serve your children throughout their lives.
While I do think “no” is still a viable option at times, too often parents are “a ‘no’ waiting to happen.” If you create a pattern of “yes” in your family, you’ll find that “no” doesn’t need to be said as often as you think.
Click HERE to read the complete article from Paul Axtell.ut