8 Phrases that Can Change Your Relationships

Good morning! This morning on the show, we talked about 8 simple phrases that can change your relationships.
Read what those are below and check out the whole article from Mark Merrill on allprodad.com here!

1.”I was wrong.”
A friend once shared with Mark, “You’re never more right than when you admit you’re wrong.” It’s important to acknowledge when we are wrong. It is a sign of true humility. It is the first step in asking for forgiveness.

2. “Help me understand.”
When you have a disagreement with someone, rather than becoming aggressive or defensive, decide to be curious. By taking the time to see where they are coming from and why they did what they did, you can reduce conflict. Really seeing their perspective may even change yours.

3. “That hurt me.”
It’s possible to air grievances without being confrontational. We don’t need to point the finger at someone else. By explaining how we feel without attaching blame—that hurt, not you hurt—we give the other person the opportunity to understand our feelings and consider the part they may have played without putting them on the defensive. We can assert ourselves without putting them down.

4. “Thanks very much.”
Recognizing other people’s actions and efforts works on many levels. It reminds us that we are not the center of the universe. It affirms and encourages others in who they are. It helps build cooperation and community. But it requires taking the time to notice the people around you, to pay attention.

5. “I value you.”
When you say these three words, you are essentially saying to someone that they are important to you. When people know they are valued, the relationship grows. You can fill the 4 chambers of your wife’s heart by saying that you value them.

Those 4 chambers of your wife’s heart are as follows…
Chamber 1:  Being Understood
Chamber 2:  Being Valued
Chamber 3:  Being Protected
Chamber 4:  Being Desired

6. “I respect you.”
We all want others to respect us. Saying these words, especially to a man, is a big deal. As Mark shared in Filling the 4 Chambers of Your Husband’s Heart, a man needs his woman to value and trust his opinions and decisions, even if they prove to be wrong sometimes. A man also wants his wife to respect his abilities.

Those 4 chambers of your husband’s heart are as follows…
Chamber 1: Validation
Chamber 2: Respect
Chamber 3: Loyalty
Chamber 4: Trust

7. “I love you.”
Don’t assume they know or believe it because you told them last week or because of the things that you do for them. Say these magical words to your wife, your parents, and your children when you or they leave the house, when you finish a call, first thing in the morning or last thing at night.

8. “I choose you.”
Marriage isn’t about saying yes on just one big day, it’s about saying the same thing every day afterward and forever. It’s about saying yes to us. When the honeymoon phase has given way to a season in which the sparks may be of conflict, not romance, remember that love is a choice.

These eight phrases are easy to learn, but they can sometimes be hard to speak. The words may be short, but they can get stuck in our throats. So often we are more concerned about our feelings, our rights, our needs, than those of others. But demonstrating the kind of humility these simple words show can speak volumes. In a me-me-me world, they put others first.

As St. Francis of Assisi prayed, “Grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console; to be understood, as to understand; to be loved, as to love; for it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned.”

Thanks for listening!
– Lilly and Daria

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New Directions Shelter of Knox County

16195631_1890658311177422_8147601804422870840_n-e1485520713424-657x330New Directions Domestic Abuse Shelter and Rape Crisis Center serves all survivors of domestic, intimate partner, and sexual violence in Knox County, Ohio. New Directions also strives to prevent the abuse of women, men, and children by joining with the community to build safe, respectful, and loving relationships. All New Directions services are provided free of charge.

New Directions is an amazing outreach here in Knox county, and WNZR’s Trevor Moore had the opportunity to talk with Lori Jones-Perkins, the Director at New Directions.

Lori talks about her involvement in the organization, their annual fundraiser, how people can financially support New Directions, and some of their goals/needs for 2018.

You can listen to their whole conversation here!
Learn more about New Directions here!

Same Kind of Different as Me

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“International art dealer Ron Hall must befriend a dangerous homeless man in order to save his struggling marriage to his wife, a woman whose dreams will lead all three of them on the journey of their lives.”

That’s the synopsis for the Paramount-Pureflix movie “Same Kind of Different as Me”. WNZR’s own Daria Swisher had the chance to talk with the movie’s producer Stephen Johnson.

Stephen talks about how he found the story for the movie, the casting process for a movie like this, and the message he wants people to walk away with.

You can listen to their whole conversation here!
Learn more about the movie here!
Watch the trailer for “Same Kind of Different as Me” here!

2018 MVNU Women’s Auxiliary

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MVNU has the amazing opportunity to host the Women’s Auxiliary Retreat again on campus this year! We would like to welcome Jennifer Shaw, an award-winning speaker, author, singer, and songwriter.

Warm. Real. Funny. Intelligent. Engaging. These are some of the words people use to describe Jennifer Shaw. But her favorite? “Christ-follower, absolutely,” she said. With a love for people and a heart to serve God, Jennifer wants nothing more than to point people toward the One who has changed everything in her own life.

WNZR’s own Marcy Rinehart had the opportunity to talk with Jennifer about her life and the upcoming Women’s Auxiliary Retreat!

Jennifer talks about all the different roles she plays and how she ‘juggles’ them all as well as talking about her music, her book “Typical” and her family. She also talks about the message that God has placed on her heart for women and the topic for this years Women’s Auxiliary Retreat.

You can listen to the whole conversation here!
Learn more about the Women’s Auxiliary Retreat here!
Find out more about Jennifer Shaw here!

 

It’s not all about me?

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Do you have children? Do you worry about the selfish nature of kids today? Well don’t worry because today we shared some tips from allprodad.com for teaching you kid that it is not all about them.  Here are some of the tips we especially likes

Self-absorption eventually saturates everyone around you.

If you have a “me-first” attitude, chances are your children will as well. Instead of immediately going for the easy chair after work, ask your wife if there is something you can do for her before unwinding. When your children see you putting others first, they’ll follow suit

Discuss the value of hard work.

When your children admire someone in the limelight, take time to talk about how much work goes into developing a talent or skill. It can be as simple as, “You know, it takes years of hard work to be able to sing like that.” Or a question, “Do you think it’s more important to be famous than it is to do the best you can with the gifts you’ve been given?” This will help your children begin to recognize the value of hard work versus cheap fame.

Praise your children.

Be careful not to honor shortcuts, cheating, or success that comes at the expense of others. While we applaud our children’s accomplishments, we shouldn’t do so insincerely or indiscriminately. If your child hits a dribbler to the shortstop, praise him for running hard to first base even though he was called out. But don’t make him out to be Babe Ruth unless he really does knock it out of the park.

For the full lest of tips, check out allprodad.com!

Deodorant and Smoothies?

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That sounds like an appetizing combination I’m sure, but don’t worry we are not making a smoothie out of something you put into your arm pit.  Today we shared some crazy ways you can use deodorant that are not just putting it under your arms.  There tips in her about where else you can apply it and other ways you can use deodorant to your advantage.  If you would like to check out the full list of tips click HERE.

We also shared some pre-made smoothie recipes, stuff you can just freeze in a bag to make into a smoothie later.  Check out the info graphic below for tips on how to make a delicious morning treat!

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Get Caught Reading: Tips To Start A Habit of Reading

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Today on The Morning Thing we also talked about how to cultivate a lifetime habit of reading, especially in a world where it easy to get distracted by other forms of media.

For the full article and all the tips, click HERE.