How does a little boy transition through the years into a man?
It helps when lessons are taught by the father.
Rick Johnson from Focus on the Family shares “What Boys Need to Learn to Become Good Men”. Click HERE to read the entire article.
Rick points out the qualities that can help your boy become a good man.
Perseverance – Boys must learn to persevere in the face of adversity now if they are to succeed later during even tougher seasons of life. Perseverance is probably one of the toughest things for moms to teach their boys. It requires them to resist the urge to rescue their sons when they are struggling. Greatness is born by perseverance in the face of adversity. Few things worth doing are ever easy.
Trustworthiness -Talk to your son about what being able to trust someone means to you. If you have trouble trusting due to past experiences, discuss it with him so he can understand how important trustworthiness is and how damaging it can be when violated.
Courage – Teach your son to lead courageously, to stand by his convictions even when they may result in pain, sorrow or negative consequences. Someday he will lead his own family. Fathers are faced with tough decisions every day. The question is, do you want him to lead with courage or cowardice?
Compassion – A man should defend those who cannot defend themselves. Teach your boy early in life the nobility of protecting the weak and helpless.
Self-discipline and self-control – Self-discipline and self-control keep a man from doing things in private that he would never do in public. They are inner strengths a man develops over time with exercise, like a muscle. Typically, if a man lacks self-discipline in one area of his life, he lacks self-control in other areas as well.
How does a boy develop self-discipline and self-control? He develops them by being held accountable for his actions.
Honesty – Let your son know that you expect honesty from him at all times, even when he has made bad choices — then model that behavior yourself. A man w
Dave Willis of http://sixseeds.patheos.com/ shares 7 LESSONS THAT TURN A BOY INTO A MAN.
Click HERE to read the entire article.
1. Fight for what’s right.
Being a man doesn’t mean you have to go around punching people like your in a UFC cage match, but it does mean you must have the courage to take a stand for what’s right. Speak up for the powerless. Defend the weak. Fight for justice for the oppressed. Fight for your family.
“Don’t be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your families, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes.” Nehemiah 4:14
2. Take responsibility.
Boys run from responsibility; men run towards responsibility. If you’re a grown man living in your parents’ basement and constantly bouncing around between different women and dead-end jobs, you’re not a man. You’re a boy with a beard. Grow up.
“A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish son brings grief to his mother.” Proverbs 10:1
3. Provide for your family.
Your wife and your children should know that you would be willing to go hungry to make sure they’re fed. It’s not the government’s job to feed your family. It’s YOUR job. There’s no shame in assistance when you need it, but you should also be willing to work hard to provide.
“The man who is unwilling to work shall not eat.” 2 Thessalonians 3:10
4. Control your emotions.
Emotions are a tool given by God and there are healthy and important ways to express them, but don’t be ruled by them. If you don’t learn to master your anger and your emotions, then your anger and emotions will master you.
“Fools are quick to express their anger, but wise people are patient and control themselves.” Proverbs 29:11
5. Love your wife.
In many ways, your life and legacy will be defined by how you love your wife. Show her you’d be willing to lay down your life for her. Show your boys what it means to love and respect a wife, because they’re learning what marriage means by watching you. For more on this, check out my free video on How to have a stronger marriage.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her ” Ephesians 5:25
6. Keep your commitments.
Fulfill your commitments. This is the essence of manhood. Pay your debts, keep your word, and always speak the truth. When you’ve blown it, admit and seek forgiveness. Don’t make your decisions based on your feelings; make your choices based on your commitments.
“Keep an oath even when it hurts.” Psalm 15:4
7. Trust God.
God made you and His plan for your life is the only plan that counts. Don’t be so prideful that you try to do it on your own. Life is meant to be lived in relationship with your Creator. If you’re walking with Him, you’ll always be headed in the right direction!
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take.” Proverbs 3:5-6
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